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Sleep Talking Is Ruining My Marriage

by Melissa
(Clarksburg, West Virginia)

I was broke up with my ex bf when he died September 30th 2014. We buried him October 3rd 2014. I was still friends with him and still loved him. Our relationship was toxic, he was an alcoholic and that is why we couldn't be together, even though we had a mutual love for each other.


My problem is I got married December 27th, I work the graveyard shift and I don't get the proper amount of sleep. When my husband tries to wake me up, usually tries to arouse me awake by touching me sexually I call him my ex's name (deceased... J.T. is his name) and if he just tries to wake me up and doesn't touch me I don't say his name...

Please help me, it's literally destroying our marriage... Any advice is welcomed please no negative feedback or comments... Thank you....

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Oct 30, 2015
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by: Anonymous

I can relate completely. My ex husband and I had been separated for over 1.5 yrs. we had been together for 14 years. My new boyfriend and I moved in together in November 2014, my ex passed away January 2015. I have always been a sleep talker, my ex was a pretty heavy sleeper and I mostly just woke myself up talking. My boyfriend now is a very light sleeper and hears much of what I say apparently. I know I think about my ex a lot and am very sad about his sudden death as well as legal issues with his estate etc I am dealing with. I have woke myself up calling out for him and woke my daughter one time on vacation crying and yelling for him in my sleep. For some reason this week I have said his name three nights in a row. I dont want to ask my boyfriend to go into detail about what I said because he is very upset by it. I feel so bad but I don't usually remember what I have been dreaming about. He said I chuckle and smile sometimes and actually cry tears other times.

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