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Painful Awakenings, How RBD Is Affecting Me

by Nelle
(Philadelphia, PA)

My husband and i have been together for over 9 years. In the beginning of our relationship he would tell me of nights where he kicked the wall while sleeping. Years ago when we began staying the night together there was a night he punched me in the mouth due to a dream he was having.


Years later, actually within the past 2 months, he's been acting out again. On 2 separate occasions i received a swift blow to the back of my head. But just 3 nights ago, instead of waking up after the first hit and my shouting he connected 3 hard blows to the back of my head. He finally woke up at that point completely devastated over what he had just done.

I must stress that my husband has no idea what he's doing at these moments and is and never has been a violent man. Ironically in his dreams he is usually trying to protect me, unfortunately there isn't anyone to protect me from him. Due to this last "attack" i have been to scared to sleep in the same bed as him.

Tomorrow is monday and will be contacting the Dr. And requesting a sleep study be done. I love my husband very much, & hate not sharing a bed with him, but as it stands every time i feel or hear him shift in bed a jump awake trying to scurry to the floor or attempt to block a possible blow. :(

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Jan 25, 2013
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by: Kevin

Thank you for sharing Nelle. Did everything go well at the doctors?
Jan 25, 2013
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by: Nelle

Well our pcp was great but unfortunately he did not qualify for the sleep study. Thankfully he hasn't had an "episode" since i posted this, but still seems to have issues sleeping.

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