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My Husband Has Sex Dreams About Every Night

by Rita
(Calif)

My husband has these, what I call sex dreams, about every night. He is vocal and makes a lot of moves and sexual remarks. He says he does not remember anything.


Our sex life is being affected. I have tried to remember how long these have been going on. It seems this single woman has moved into the neighborhood and has some mental problems. When she is outside my husband seems to watch her. He sits on the porch and has his hand on his fly.

He appears to be saying something to himself, but i can't hear him. She seems to bend over a lot when she is in his view. Is this a problem that is due to just dreaming?

I have tried every way I can think of to increase our sex life, even things I do not approve of. It seems that he isn't able to hold an erection for long and I am not able to have a climax because there is nothing there to excite me. I am really frustrated and have always enjoyed sex. I know that he has trouble with a climax when we have sex. Is there anything that I can do or find out why he is having these dreams?

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Dec 31, 2017
 Your husband NEW
by: Anonymous

Oh wow..it's very obvious of what's going on, your husband should be ashamed of himself rubbernecking/checking out other women while putting his hand on his fly? That's sick , and I don't care if the girl has mental problems or not,she's obviously bending down on purpose to get your husbands attention if she's doing every time he comes out , that's a huge red flag there. It actually makes me angry that your husband made a commitment to you to be his wife & he (excuse my language) acts like a perverted pig to another woman. I am so sorry he's putting you through this, unless if you two have kids , maybe you guys should talk this through & probably see other people especially if your husband is checking out other women, dreaming about them and obviously murmered perverted things towards that girl under his breath. I've seen this happen before with married couples before where one of them isn't loyal to there spose, there was no point for him to marry you if he's going to act like a hungry dog to other women behind your back.
Nov 03, 2021
 what if she's a witch? NEW
by: Anonymous

I watched Hocus Pocus for the first time and this sounded a bit familiar. It just sounds like he's under a spell.

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