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Husband Talks In His Sleep About Ex - When Is He Going To Get Over Her?

My Husband talks in his sleep, most nights about the same girl. He repeats her name. He says I love you..... I need you.... Please, please... I love you. He has repeated her full name.


This type of talk about the same person has been going on for 4 years now. It started when he broke up with this girl. I found out that he was seeing her on some level and then the talk started. At first it was sexual but then it morphed into I love you I love you I love you.

I get the feeling he doesn't really love me but will miss the money I will take if I leave.

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Jul 18, 2015
 too long NEW
by: Anonymous

Four years is too long to have sleep disruptions. How do you manage to get through your nights and have you received any advise?
Jul 26, 2015
 I do the same as your man NEW
by: Anonymous

I talk about my ex apparently in my sleep and will say her name and remove my partners arm from me and say "not tonight ******" I can't tolerate my ex and I don't know why I talk about her in my sleep. My ex does stress me out with her behaviour as I have children with her. talking in sleep is out of anyone's control so don't take it as gospel. I have also started swearing in my sleep so it's probably all stress related on my part but don't think your man talking about his ex in his sleep means anything.
Feb 15, 2016
 Same issue NEW
by: Anonymous

Hi,is this resolved?

m asking this as my husband is also behaving same.

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