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His Dirty Talk While Sleeping

by Karen
(Cranbourne VIC Australia)

My guy calls out chicks' names, picks up women, and asks for sexual favours from then in no uncertain terms. He says I am everything he wants and there's no one else. I can't sleep.


Waking up is one thing but having to hear the one you love and want so badly say things like this is bewildering and hurtful. I am a wreck. I want to trust him but he is a bit of a perve and I can't help thinking there is someone he wants more than me.

He says he can't remember the dreams ??

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Jul 31, 2016
 Wish I could us both NEW
by: Anonymous

My man does this too and it hurts. I always wonder who he is dreaming about he don't talk that nasty to me during intercorse just when he ia asleep he fondles me and talks very nasty things.
Aug 29, 2016
 Girls names in my sleep NEW
by: Anonymous

Hi I'm a 39 yo male and I do this, my wife says I say other womans names in my sleep and it's really getting to he, this may sound like a copy out but I never remember the following morning, I am a bit of a perv and love sex, we have a very active sex life and don't want any more, the don't think I could handle it lol. It's really getting to her, she said she elbowed me in my ribs last night till I stopped.
I can't remember and need to try to sort this out, it's putting stress on our marriage and I hate seeing my wife unhappy, any help would be very appreciated
Sep 06, 2016
 Wife says i call her another womans name in my sleep NEW
by: Anonymous

I am a 30 year old man who has been married for over 9 yrs now. My wife says i sleep talk. In the past 4 months she says i have touched her sexually and said another womans name. The same name twice. I dont remember any of this. she is goining to leave me and i dont want to lose her. We have 4 small children together and i have never once in my life been unfaithful. Please if anyone has an answer for why this happens please let me know.
Mar 13, 2017
 Sleep Talking Doesn't Mean Anything Important (Other Than Low Quality Sleep) NEW
by: Anonymous

I talk in my sleep and have since I was young. My boyfriend gets a kick out of it but thankfully I have not cussed him out or anything.

However, I have apparently cussed out others who I would never consciously say such things to or about - and am generally kind of a b---- (a lot less nice, a lot less passive) in my sleep talking but I sleep very deep and don't realize I'm talking - let alone have any clue what prompted me to say it. I rarely am aware of any dreams I've had.

So, if it helps please show this to your spouse and reassure them that it happens to others and it could be a subconscious thing that is bothering you or that you are thinking about but you have no awareness or recollection and it DOES NOT MEAN that you are thinking that way during the day.

I have often feared saying another guy's name in my sleep because I know I sleep talk - but not because I am thinking about other guys all day but rather that I can't help what I am saying during my sleep.

HOWEVER if something is bothering you a lot you may be more prone to sleep talking so keep that in mind.

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