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Help - I Talk In My Sleep Like I'm Having Sex With Other Men

by Joy
(US)

I am a 34 year old female. My husband says I talk in my sleep almost every night.


He says I talk like I'm having sex with other men. I call out names. I don't remember any of it, so I don't actually think I'm dreaming. I know it's not a confession because I've
never cheated on him.

He says I've done it every since we've been together, which is about 16 years. He tells me and I say its not true because I have no recollection, or I may remember bits and pieces of a dream and it had nothing to do with sex.

What could be the underlying cause and how can I seek help?

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Oct 14, 2014
 46 F & I also "sex talk" in my sleep NEW
by: Sleeptalker2

Until my early 40s I had no idea I ever talked in my sleep & my Husband, who is already a light sleeper" has told me this has been going on many nights & that I "Moan & groan as if I'm having sex" among talking in general & he has said a couple times I called out some man's name but I don't know anyone by the couple names my husband mentioned & I have no memory of any of these dreams. Just want you to know you're not alone
Apr 07, 2015
 My feelings were hurt NEW
by: Anonymous

My husband of 25 years started talking in his sleep about 6 months ago. Last night he said "Ashley, are you screwing someone else?" My name isn't Ashley!!!! I have no reason to think he knows anyone named Ashely. But it has bothered me all day!
Sep 12, 2015
 I call another man name during my sleep. NEW
by: Anonymous

my husband says i call another mans what at night and talk like we are having sex
Feb 25, 2016
 Sex Talking With Other Women NEW
by: Keith

Hi
I’ve always been a light sleeper or thought I was and often feel I have a good sleep however , My partner of 14 years tells me more and more I talk about having and doing sex with other woman, I’d done it on and off ever since we have been together, some of the names are my work colleges and even some of our friends in my sleep, I don't remember anything about it we used to joke about it however after all these years it is beginning to cause trust issues between us now and I've done it for years and the frustrations getting to me as I know it hurts her I know how I’d feel about it if it was her talking in her sleep it's now getting to me don't think she realises it’s affect on us both, not sure how if you can help stop it.
I’m now starting to search the net looking for answers has anyone found help for this, I put it all down to work stress issues.

Any Help Advice
Thanks Keith
Oct 08, 2016
 My wife is doing this same thing NEW
by: Anonymous

Did you ever figure out what was going on or causing this.

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