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Dreaming Or Paranormal Attacks, Grabbing At My Private Parts

by Wayne
(Fraserburgh Scotland)

I am 40 years old and have been suffering with what I thought was sleep paralysis for as long as I can remember.


It always starts the same: I think I have woken up and try to turn on my bedside lamp. When it doesn't go on I know I am still asleep, then the attack starts.

I feel a hot feeling in my private parts (I am male) and smell a hot smell. It is not nice. Then I feel hands grabbing at my private parts and I am frozen with fear but I can speak, so I say the Lords prayer but it doesn't make any difference.

It is only in the past year that I have started feeling the hands grabbing at me. Sometimes I can move and try to pull the unseen hands off me but I never can. Am I dreaming or being attacked by a spirit or even an alien?

I am scared to go to sleep. I also speak in my sleep but as I live alone I only found out how much I speak or scream when I stay with my brothers.

Please can anyone help me as I don't know where to turn. I have the feeling that whatever is going on is not good as I feel a bad presence. I try to fight to wake myself up, and normally I can after what seems a long time.

I normally know when I am dreaming (I always have done) so when I feel the dream going bad I wake myself up, but this is different. I can't control what is happening to me and it is getting worse each time it happens. Please can someone help me as I cant keep being scared to go to sleep. Something is trying to get me in my sleep and it is succeeding.

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Sep 14, 2015
 Taking Back Control
by: Kevin

Hi Wayne, Thanks for sharing your story, and hopefully you've been able to find some comfort reading the many stories from others on here. The biological phenomenon sleep paralysis is often associated with sexual feelings due to its connection with REM sleep (men get erections during REM sleep, and women experience an equivalent stimulation), and episodes also often bring about feelings of dread and negativity (not the best combination...). So it does sound like sleep paralysis. You may want to look into Ryan Hurd's book about taking control of sleep paralysis, which you can read about on our sleep paralysis treatment page.
Jun 15, 2017
 Omg! NEW
by: Dr mirzaei

Omg! Im 35 and i have this situation since i turned 20; i live alone so just imagine how much helpless i feel when it happens! But its not every night; sometime its several nights in row, and sometimes once a week; i had some month without it too. But i feel someone tries to abuse me; i feel the presure on it; i start to moun and call my dog; when she gets close; it releases me; i spoon my dog ehen i go to sleep; but after awhile she changes position and goes to her spot. I suggest you get as many dogs and cats as you can. I have 1 dog and 2 cats now and im thinking to adopt more. It never happens when pets are in your bed
Aug 09, 2017
 Engineer NEW
by: Anonymous

Wiggle a toe, finger, hold your breath. Any one of these will alert your brain that you are awake and your brain will then take you out of SP.
Jan 16, 2023
 Try sleeping sideway NEW
by: Anonymous

Don't sleep facing up or on your back. Try sleeping on your side hugging your pillow or something. I don't know why but sleeping on your back makes you have nightmares and sleep paralysis or makes your dreams more real. Including having wet dreams

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